Childhood is Certainly not the Happiest Time of your Life

It's about time somebody exploded разражается that hoary почтенный old myth about childhood being the happiest period of your life. Childhood may certainly be fairly happy, but its greatest moments can't compare with the sheer абсолютным joy of being an adult . Who ever asked a six-year-old for an opinion? Children don't have opinions, or if they do, nobody notices. Adults choose the clothes their children will wear, the books they will read and the friends they will play with. Mother and father are kindly but absolute dictators. This is an adult world, and though children may be deeply loved, they have to be manipulated so as not to interfere too seriously with the lives of their elders and betters. The essential difference between manhood and childhood is the same as the difference between independence and subjection.

For all the nostalgic remarks you hear, which adult would hon­estly change places with a child? Think of the years at school: the years spent living in constant fear of examinations and school re­ports. Every movement you make, every thought you think is ob­served by some critical adult who may draw unflattering нелестные conclusions about your character. Think of the curfews время, после которого ребёнку не разрешается быть вне дома, the martial law военное положение, the times you had to go to bed early, do as you were told, eat disgusting stuff

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that was supposed to be good for you. Remember how "gentle" pres­sure was applied with remarks like "if you don't do as I say, I'll..." and a dire ужасное warning would follow.

Even so, these are only part of a child's troubles. No matter how kind and loving adults may be, children often suffer from terrible, illogical fears which are the result of ignorance and an inability to understand the world around them. Nothing can equal the abject жалкий fear a child may feel in the dark, the absolute horror of childish night­mares. Adults can share their fears with other adults; children invari­ably face their fears alone. But the most painful part of childhood is the period when you begin to emerge выходить from it: adolescence подросткового возраста. Teenag­ers may rebel violently возмущаться against parental authority, but this causes them great unhappiness. There is a complete lack of self-confidence during this time. Adolescents подростки are overconscious of their appearance and the impression they make on others. They feel shy, awkward неловкими and clumsy неуклюжими. Feelings are intense and hearts easily broken. Teenagers experience moments of tremendous elation or black despair отчаяние. And through this turmoil суматоху, adults seem to be more hostile враждебными than ever.

What a relief it is to grow up. Suddenly you regain your balance; the world opens up before you. You are free to choose; you have your own place to live in and your own money to spend. You do not have to seek constant approval for everything you do. You are no longer teased, punished or ridiculed by heartless adults because you failed to come up подходить to some theoretical standard. And if on occasion you are teased, you know how to deal with it. You can simply tell other adults to go to hell: you are one yourself.

(From: "For and Against" by L.G. Alexander)

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